The art of negotiating (compromising) when getting a divorce

Posted by Zachary A. VanDykeMay 10, 20210 Comments

Compromising or negotiating is a part of every divorce. Compromising can come into play in all areas of divorce, especially property division and child custody. Both spouses typically want specific results in a Panama City, Florida, divorce. In most cases, both are equally prepared to fight for what they want, especially when high-value assets and access to children are at stake.

Should you negotiate (compromise)?

In most cases, you should. It is an effective bargaining tool commonly used in divorces across the country. Unfortunately, our family law attorneys have noticed that most people resist compromising or negotiating during a divorce. It nearly always feels like you are giving something valuable away for free. We hope to change your opinion about the art of negotiating and compromising in this blog post.

What we have learned over the years

Resistance to compromising over marital property often results in hardships you could avoid if you rethink your strategies. Below, you will find a few tips we have learned to enhance your negotiating skills.

Decide what matters most to you. Are you more concerned about your family heirlooms or the new car you and your spouse recently bought? Defining your top priorities can help you know how to proceed with your divorce negotiations.

Figure out what matters most to your spouse. Does he or she value your shared art collection or perhaps the vacation home you share? Knowing what is important to your spouse provides you with a solid foundation upon which to negotiate.

Make a plan and prepare to stick with it. Define your divorce goals as early as possible and dedicate yourself to preserving these goals. Have your lawyer offer a little at a time in exchange for what you want until you acquire a settlement appropriate to your needs.

Remember, your spouse may be doing the same thing, so consistency on your end can go a long way in preserving your best interests. If your negotiations fail, it will be up to a court to determine how best to divide your property per Florida equitable distribution laws.

Please, continue reviewing our firm's family law website for additional guidance with your divorce.