Whether a court is determining your custody agreement or you're seeking to modify a current custody order, how you conduct yourself is vitally important. The court will be assessing what you are like as a parent and what is in the best interests of a child.
This means that much of what you do will be monitored and taken into consideration. Outlined below are some specific behaviors that are worth keeping in mind.
Talking badly about your co-parent
It's more than likely that your child didn't want the separation to occur. They love you both as parents and have no desire to get in the middle of arguments. No matter how frustrating your co-parent is, it's important to keep this in mind. Try to vent only to those who are sensitive to the situation and refrain from badmouthing your co-parent in front of the children.
Not adhering to court orders
If you're contesting a current custody order because you believe it is fundamentally flawed, it's important to exercise patience. You will get to have your say and explain your reasoning in full detail once the hearing takes place. If your concerns are valid, and you can build a strong argument, then the court may adjust the custody terms.
Until then, it's important to stick to the arrangements that have already been made. Custody orders are legally binding and cannot be ignored because one parent disagrees with them.
Getting the appropriate custody arrangements in place is pivotal to the happiness of your children. With compromise and cooperation, it's perfectly feasible that you and your spouse are able to make things work. If you do have concerns about your custody rights, make sure you seek legal guidance.